After seeing the movie Fireproof with my wife recently, I wanted to do the love dare in it for my wife. I put the book on my hold list at the library. I couldn’t publish this until after the whole 40 days, because my wife reads this blog and I wanted it to be a surprise. Here are some notes on what happened, but since I don’t want to ruin the book (or infringe on copyrights!), I won’t list the dares here. (Update: the book’s web site actually has the full list.) You just need to pick up your own copy.
In the movie, all that stood in the way of their perfect romance was their fading feelings. Real life is more complicated. Just in the last forty days, some of the things that made it harder for me to do this included: a kid got sick and threw up seven times in one morning, my wife and I were taken to court (where we did not do well), I got sick (twice–once during the first week of the dare, and again during the last week), our refrigerator broke down and got repaired, work and other responsibilities kept us apart all day and up very late, the lock on my car door broke (and the dealer didn’t even fix it right!), the battery in our van died, and a motley assortment of other irritations, distractions, and adversities made their merry way into the path of my earnest scheduling. In short, life happened.
So it was hard at times, but I think my wife appreciated it, so it was absolutely worth it.
My only frame of reference for ideas was the character in the movie, and at times I felt a little bad that my gestures weren’t as dramatic as his. I guess that’s to be expected: my life isn’t scripted, nor does it have a movie studio’s budget. I, alas, do not have twenty grand stashed away for a boat that I can dip into to help make her dream come true.
Days 1-5 (May 20 -May 24)
Day 1: The day I picked this up from the library was one of the hardest, most discouraging days of work I had all year. I wanted to complain about it and dump it all on my wife, but I took the injunction to not be negative as literally as I could, and held my tongue. At least for today!
Day 2: foot rub
Day 3: Star Trek glass from Burger King. We’re awesome.
Days 6-10 (May 25 -May 29)